When sexual desire fades, it can feel confusing or concerning. In this journal, Relationship Counsellor and Sexologist Isiah McKimmie explores the real reasons libido decreases, how your body’s stress response influences sexual desire, and practical ways to naturally support and restore libido.

The Pelvic Serpent was designed for those who experience pelvic pain, tension and conditions that can cause difficulty enjoying sex and intimacy. Vulvodynia, Vestibulodynia, Vaginismus, Dyspareunia (painful intercourse), and postnatal perineal scar sensitivity; these are some of the many reasons our founder Rosie had in mind when she designed this wand.

So you have a kink and you want to explore it.

Maybe you’re in a long‑term relationship, maybe you’re seeing someone new, or maybe you’re just starting to feel your curiosity growing. You’ve decided it might be time to open up and share your deeper desires and curiosities with someone else. 

Having a healthy relationship with your sexual desires and boundaries is essential. Acknowledging when you have specific sexual curiosities and interests reduces shame, improves relationships and actually supports self esteem.

Pelvic pain, painful sex and intimacy challenges are more common than many people realise. GPPPD is a broad umbrella diagnosis used to describe painful intimacy. Experienced by up to 20% of women, this diagnosis can be overwhelming or validating, and can often leave you with more questions than answers. Today we are going to explain the basics and provide you with some insight into how this diagnosis can impact sex, intimacy & relationships. Whether this blog is for you, your lover or even a friend, chances are you will learn something new today!

Sexual and orgasmic energy is potent. Orgasms aren’t just pleasurable; they are brain-altering, mood-boosting, and confidence-building. They release endorphins, reduce stress, and can literally change your brain chemistry, helping you process heavier emotions while reinforcing feelings of self-worth and empowerment. By intentionally engaging with your sexual energy, you step into life feeling juicy, confident, and ready to pursue what you want.

That little pause while you reach for it? Sexy. The build-up? Hot. Asking “Is this okay?” while you drizzle some onto your partner’s skin and watch their reaction? Smoking. When you use lube as a playful tool instead of a hidden fix, it becomes part of the erotic tension.

These are just some of the ways you can start expressing your desires, needs and curiosities. As sexual beings, we should all have the opportunity to live delicious, orgasmic lives. Being able to explore our sexual needs with curiosity and without judgement is a fundamental human right. So next time you are with your lover, remember that you deserve to explore all of your sexual desires, no matter how wild they may be.

Sexual fantasies can be incredibly hot and playful! Most people will experience many sexual fantasies over their lifetime and it is important to
recognise that this is super common. Just because we have a fantasy, does not mean we actually want to act upon it.
It can be very common to fantasise about someone OTHER than your partner, even if you
love your partner deeply and have no intention of acting upon your fantasy.

Pussy massage is a deeply transformative practice that goes beyond pleasure, it’s a gateway to healing, self-connection, and unlocking emotional blocks stored in the body. Many of us carry tension, shame, and even trauma in our pelvic region, often without realising it. Through intentional touch, presence, and self-love, we can begin to release what no longer serves us and invite in more pleasure, relaxation, and empowerment.