You’re in a moment of intimacy and then suddenly, everything changes. An erection fades, the energy shifts, and what felt easy now feels fragile. For many couples, it’s not the moment itself that creates disconnection, but the meaning that gets attached to it. In this journal article, Isiah McKimmie, Relationship Counsellor & Sexologist, explores the real reasons erections come and go, and how to move through these moments with more ease, confidence, and connection.

Has sex ever felt a bit… flat? Like it’s lost its spark. In this journal, Relationship Counsellor & Sexologist Isiah McKimmie, explores why this happens and shares 5 strategies you can implement today to spice things up in the bedroom.