Whether you're craving a whirlwind fling, a sensual self-discovery era, or a season of playful flirtation, this is your reminder that pleasure and play can be intentional, joyful, and deeply fulfilling, even with no strings attached.
Here are three of my favourite ways to dive into summer with an open mind and a deep commitment to honouring my desires and curiosities.
1. Create a Sexy Summer Bucket List
Before summer sweeps you away, ask yourself:
What kind of delicious desires do I actually want to explore this summer?
This is the moment to get honest about your desires, the bold ones, the vulnerable ones, and the ones you’ve been too shy to say out loud.
Get into the details and write them out! Maybe you’d like to…
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Dive deeply into exploring a kink you’ve been curious about
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Experiment with your dominant side (or surrender to your submissive one)
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Let someone romance you with a fancy dinner, flowers, and soft compliments
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Say yes to spontaneous adventure dates that leave your heart racing
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Revel in cozy, cuddled-up mornings with slow kisses and slower coffee
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Or fully embrace your hot-and-heavy, late-night, sweat-on-skin lover era
Whatever your desire looks like, write it down. Opening yourself to pleasure is easier when you give your fantasies a place to land.
Be explicit. Be confident. Give your desires and fantasies a space to be recognised.
2. Get Clear On Your Standards
Summer flings are meant to be fun… but they also deserve a baseline of care, respect, and intention.
Ask yourself:
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How do I expect to be treated? - Don’t settle for poor communication, effort or energy from another person - no matter how casual the situation!
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What kind of person do I want to share my time and body with?
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What values matter to me in a lover - intensity, humour, passion, open mindedness, kinky, playful?
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How do they speak about other people?
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Are they kind, confident, ambitious, funny, honest? What type of character do you want to spend this time with?
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Their style? Their energy? Their priorities?
Have fun creating a list! Have fun with it, get together with a friend or a few and make an evening of it. Encourage each other and think as broadly and wildly as you can!
Standards do not restrict you, they are the ultimate sign of self respect.
When we honour our standards, we respect ourselves.
When you continue to treat yourself with respect I can tell you now that your self esteem will grow and so will your self confidence.
Standards are there to help you recognise when someone matches your vibe (and when they absolutely do not).
No matter if it’s a casual fling, a committed relationship or something in between - you should always honour your standards.
3. Lean Into the Playful Side of Yourself
Flirtation isn’t a performance, it’s play.
It’s curiosity.
It’s letting your natural spark take the lead and being authentic in connection.
And here’s the secret:
Playfulness doesn’t need to be sexual to be magnetic.
Ask yourself:
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How often do I lean into play with myself?
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How often do I let myself be silly, spontaneous, or mischievous with others?
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What do I do simply because it makes me laugh or feel really fucking good?
Maybe you dance in your kitchen,yell karaoke to your favourite songs in the car, wear something that makes you feel like sunshine, take sexy silly selfies for no one but yourself or make silly faces and be goofy just because it feels fun.
Playfulness is something that can so easily be lost in the rush and hurry of being an adult and living a responsibility filled life.
We actually know from research that people who are more playful in everyday life have WAY greater joy, pleasure and satisfaction!
Whatever makes you absolutely cackle or leaves you smiling so hard that you can’t stop is where you need to focus your energy.
Indulge in these experiences, flirt with the life you live and with yourself first.
Seek out the people, spaces, and experiences that ignite your playful spark.
Play brings joy and pleasure and a simple enjoyment for life that doesn’t need to look a certain way.
This is what is truly magnetic. This is where you will find your inner playful, magnetic, flirty self.
So when you are soaking up that sun and feeling that spicy, juicy summer energy hit, remember… summer flings are supposed to be fun and you get to be treated like an absolute god/goddess no matter what the connection will bring!
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With love,
Annalise Webster
Your In-House Sexologist at YINNBODY