By Natasha Weiss
Confidence is key for many things in life. It helps to enhance your professional life, your relationships, and yes – your sex life.
When you feel confident and secure in yourself, it creates a certain magnetism and radiance that is tangible to the people around you. You’re more likely to ask for what you want, communicate if something is or isn’t working for you, and feel more grounded and present in your body. These are all vital components of a thriving sex life.
Still, feeling confident can be easier said than done. Building confidence is an ongoing process. But there are steps you can take right now to help increase your confidence to have more fulfilling sex and feel better in your life overall.
What Makes You Feel Good?
There’s a wholesome element to confidence. Much of it comes down to knowing what makes you feel good, and owning that without shame.
Think of the most confident person that you know and the unabashedness that they have when they go after the things that they want in life. You have that in you too. But sometimes you have to get back in touch with what makes you feel lit up in the first place.
So what makes you feel good? Is it getting movement everyday? Is it cracking jokes with your loved ones? Taking time for yourself? When you know and own what makes you feel good, in and out of the bedroom, you’re able to better communicate that with your partner.
Remember What You Bring to The Table
Sometimes when your confidence wavers you forget how much you have to offer the world. This is especially true if you have people pleasing tendencies.
You have gifts that can only be channeled through you. Maybe it’s your ability to make people feel seen and heard. Or your creative eye. Or your ability to always make people laugh. This is a great thing to reflect on during a journal practice.
When you remember what it is that you bring to the table, you’re able to build a natural confidence, because you know your self-worth.
Practice Self Love
Self love has a few different meanings around here.
Self-pleasure is one way you can increase your confidence and your love for yourself. You can enhance this by trying out a crystal pleasure wand.
Experiencing pleasure on your own is a powerful feeling, and helps to enhance your self-worth, which carries over when someone else is involved.
Self-love isn’t just about masturbation. Self-love is taking the time for you that you deserve, even if it’s just a few minutes here and there. Taking some long deep breaths when you wake up, starting a mediation practice, or dancing to your favourite song (check out our Yinn Spotify Playlists here.)
Building your confidence can take time, but with these tools you’ll start to see and feel the difference they make in yourself – and your sex life.
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